All A Part Of HIS Plan | Spoken Word Poetry {Video}


If you can look back over your life and say, “If ‘that’ didn’t happen I wouldn’t be the person I am today”
If you can look back over your life and say, “there was PURPOSE in my PAIN”…

If you can look back over your life and thank God for UNANSWERED prayers….
If you can look can look back over your life and thank your NAYSAYERS….

If you can look back over your life and say, “What the enemy meant for bad God used it for my good!”
If you can look back over your life and say, “I don’t look the way I SHOULD!”

You should be able to understand…
that even the bad things were all apart of God’s plan

Mary of Bethany

While studying admirable women in the Bible, one in particular stands out to me- Mary of Bethany. She was the sister of Lazarus, whom Jesus Christ raised from the dead. She was dear to Christ as she loved being in His presence, often sitting at His feet while He spoke. One evening, Jesus had dinner with Mary, Mary’s sister Martha, Lazarus, and Simon. Mary took out an expensive oil and begin anointing Jesus’s feet with it and wiping them with her hair (John 12:3). When she did this, many people had negative things to say about her because she was a “sinner”. Judas (Jesus’ disciple who later betrayed him) complained that she wasted such an expensive oil while it’s value was enough to feed the poor. (John 12:5) Jesus kindly told him that she was doing the right thing, cherishing her time with Him as she knew that her time with Him was short. The ointment she used to anoint His feet was so expensive that she could have sold it and become rich. It was probably the most expensive thing she owned yet she chose to pour it on the feet on Jesus. What a way to worship the Lord!

 Mary sitting at the feet of the Lord, anointing and washing His feet, displayed her reverence for Him. She honored Him. She chose to spend all her time at His feet. Although people had negative things to say about her, it did not stop her worship. She cared more about what the Lord thought about her than what people had to say about her. If only more of us could adopt this mindset. If only we’d spend time at the feet of Jesus like Mary did. If only we’d lift our hands higher, raise our voices louder, part our lips wider despite the negative things people have to say. Nobody knows what you’ve been through more than you know. Nobody knows how hard it was to come out of your past better than you do. Nobody knows the cost of your praise, except you.

 Jesus had given the complainers this parable: “There was a certain creditor which had two debtors: the one owed five hundred pence, and the other fifty. And when they had nothing to pay, he frankly forgave them both. Tell me therefore, which of them will love him most?” (Luke 7:42)  Which one of the debtors do you believe was more grateful? I’m sure that the debtor who owed more was more grateful as it cost the creditor so much more to pardon him. That is what Jesus wanted the complainers to understand. Yes, everyone in town probably knew about Mary’s past. But she was now a new creation in the eyes of the Lord. And for that she was grateful.Grateful for His forgiveness, His mercy, His grace, His Love. So she worshipped, not caring who was looking or listening, or who was complaining about her being there. She had a praise on the inside that she couldn’t keep to herself. And nobody was going to stop her.  

Love, Mizz K ♥

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Thank You

 It was your mean words….

It was your turning your back on me when I needed you most…

It was your telling me that I would turn out just like my mother…

It was your beating me for no reason other than being BORN…

It was your burning my innocent 3 year old fingers on a gas stove…

It was your calling me ugly…

It was your calling me stupid…

It was your calling me B*tch as if it was my name…

It was your talking about me behind my back…

It was your telling me that I would never be anything…

It was your saying that there was no hope for me…

It was your turning your back on my daughter and living the life as if you have no children…

It was your pretending to be my best friend so that I let you in the way I’ve never let anyone in only for you to betray me…

It was your leaving me out & making sure to remind me every chance you got that I was not really apart of the family…

It was your turning your nose up at me because of my dark skin…

It was your selfishness when I loss the one person who was my EVERYTHING and all you could ask was “what did she leave ME??”

It was your telling me that you care nothing for me nor my daughter even though we are your blood…

It was your stealing from me…

It was your touching me in places you knew were forbidden but you were so HORNY & PERVERTED that all you cared about was getting yourself off, forget the fact that I was only a child!!

It was your not liking me for no reason…

It was your envy turned hate…

It was your judging me…

It was your wishing for my failure…

that ALMOST took me out!

anoint my head

Instead, I grew STRONGER… I worked HARDER…. I pushed FARTHER…. I became DETERMINED to prove all my naysayers wrong.

Most importantly, I ran away from the WORLD and into the arms of my Saviour never to look back. He wiped away my tears that I cried for so long… made me secure in my moments of insecurity. Gave me a sound mind when I should have been crazy. Helped me to love because He first loved me. Taught me to forgive by forgiving me. I have wanted for nothing; He has provided exceedingly and abundantly above all that I can ask or think. He’s favored me, had mercy on me, saved me, blessed me, anointed me, kept me…. elevated me

All in the presence of my Enemies

 -Mizz K ♥

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies; thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over, Psalm 23:5 

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God Knows BEST

A few days ago I heard a radio message about trusting God and not getting discouraged when our prayers are not answered right away; and believing He knows what He’s doing when our prayers are not answered at all. This message really stuck to me because it made me think about the many times I’ve prayed for something and didn’t get what I was asking for. I can even remember thinking, Somebody told me that God will give me the desires of my heart so why is He not doing so? (Key phrase: somebody told me) When I actually read Psalms 37:4 for myself, it says, “Delight yourself in the Lord AND He will give u the desires of your heart”. Hmmm, I thought. DELIGHT myself in the Lord. Well what does it mean to delight myself in the Lord? To delight myself in Him is to find happiness in Him…. To find JOY in Him…. Gladness. So I must first get to know Him…. attach myself to Him and Trust Him. I can’t delight myself in what I cannot trust.

So what makes me trust Him? When I look back and think about all the things He saved me from, I realize He’s always had my best interest at heart. He has been looking out for me my entire life by NOT answering every single prayer.  Had he answered my prayer to let me get that job I wanted so badly, I would not have ended up in the position I’m in now which I LOVE! I would not have met my dear coworker/friend who has been instrumental in my spiritual growth. Her knowledge of the Word and thirst for God began impacting my life from our very first conversation. Think about something you prayed so hard about in your past that you can now look back on and say, “Thank You Lord for not giving me what I asked for!”  Had He answered your prayer for that woman or man to be the ONE, you would be miserable now that you think about it. If He had answered your prayer about getting you out of that storm that you felt was killing you slowly, you would not have built up the strength that you have today from GOING THROUGH IT! If you can look back on your life and say, ” If it had not been for [this] I would not be as STRONG as I am today; I would not have as much FAITH as I have in Him today; I would not be as CLOSE to Him as I am today”–   you, my friend, should be able to trust that God was looking out for you back then and He has not stop looking out for you now.

Trust in Him and know that He often has something much Greater in store for us than what we are asking for. I think about a friend of mine. She was a single mother with one child at the time, but took on two of her family members because their mother could not take care of them. She lived in a small apartment and had been trying to move to a bigger place. But every place she applied to denied her application. She did not understand why she kept getting denied because she had good rental history, good credit, and decent income. I remember her being so discouraged. I didn’t understand it either. Why won’t anybody except her application, I thought. Turns out, it was all apart of God’s plan. After being denied by numerous apartments, and just as she was giving up, she was approved to move into a 3 bedroom house! She could rent to OWN this 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, finished basement, big backyard HOUSE. And the payments were much lower than what she would have been paying if she had rented an apartment. I was so happy for her. I remember saying to her, “Wow, so this is why you were denied everywhere you applied. Thank God for not answering your prayer!” Imagine if He had answered her prayer right away and  given her an apartment. She would not be living in her own home right now with more than enough space for her now family of 6. God had a much bigger plan for her than a 2 bedroom apartment.

We may be praying about something that we want so badly but God seems like He’s not hearing us. Or, we may be holding onto something that is not for us, not realizing that God has something, bigger, better, and greater than what we can ever imagine.

 I believe that once we are truly delighted in Him our desires will begin to change anyway, and become His Will. One sure way to know that your prayers will ALWAYS be answered each and every time? Pray for God’s Will in your life. That is one prayer that will ALWAYS be answered.

Love, Mizz K ♥

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3 Ways We Put Band-Aids On Our Wounds

Have you ever got a scratch or a sore, slapped a Band-Aid on it, went on about your day, only to realize later that the wound was much deeper than you initially thought it was? Or… have you ever had a sore you knew was serious but didn’t have (or simply didn’t take) the time to properly treat it so you slapped a Band-Aid on it, went about your day, only to end up with a sore that was much worse than before? I can answer yes to both of those questions. And for both scenarios, I can’t help but think that if I had only taken the time to treat my wounds when they occurred, I could have avoided the unnecessary and painful process of now having to treat an infection.

As a Medical Assisting Instructor, one of the lessons I teach to my students is the process a wound has to go through before it is completely healed. There are 3 phases:

Phase 1 is what’s called the Lag Phase. This is the phase that begins immediately after the wound occurs. Whenever there’s a breaking of our skin, we have tiny blood vessels called ‘platelets’ that begin to form a plug to stop the bleeding. A scab may eventually form, which many people are tempted to pick. Please be careful picking it, though, as this may reopen the wound causing it to bleed out again, prolonging moving on to the next phase.

Phase 2 is referred to as Proliferation. This is the phase in which the tissue around the wound begins to repair itself. There may still be a scab or visible scar. Again, it may be tempting to pick. Although picking it during this phase may not cause the wound to bleed out, it can still prolong moving onto the next phase.

Phase 3 is Remodeling. This is the final phase in which collagen (the protein that provides structure to our skin) completely closes the wound. In most cases, there will be some kind of mark, a reminder that there was once a wound. And in some cases, the skin repairs itself so well that you’d never know there was a wound.

I share those phases only to give you insight about the process a wound has to go through before it is completely healed. In order to reach phase 3, it must first go through phases 1 and 2. Depending on the type of wound and how deep it is, phase 1 may last for days; phases 2 and 3 can last days, months, or even years. This same thing can be said for emotional wounds. The thing about emotional wounds, though, is that they are not visible like the physical wounds I described above. While the effects of emotional wounds can be visualized by a person’s actions, attitude, or demeanor, we cannot actually see emotional wounds with our eyes. In fact, for many people, it takes certain events to take place for them to realize they even have emotional wounds. This is why emotional wounds are so easy to cover up. Here are 3 ways we cover our emotional wounds with metaphoric “Band-Aids”:

We pretend it doesn’t hurt.

“I’m okay.” Sound familiar? You tell yourself you’re fine in hopes of eventually being fine. But, what has ever gone away simply because you pretended it wasn’t there? Please let me know below in the comments. This morning I swept up some dirt that was in my kitchen. Trust me, I wanted to pretend it wasn’t there. But every time I went into the kitchen, I was reminded the dirt was there. How was I reminded? I could see it. Whether it’s something you see, feel, or hear, there will always be something to remind you that that pain is still there. You may be saying, “I just want to move on.” And I get it. But moving on is going to involve addressing the pain. We can’t fix what we don’t address.

We avoid talking about what hurts.

Many people avoid talking about what hurts them. Some even hide behind being “nonconfrontational”. “I don’t like to argue.” This happens often in relationships. One may feel they’re helping their relationship by not “arguing”, not realizing that the building resentment is actually harming the relationship as they harbor negative feelings. Harboring negative feelings toward a person for too long can eventually cause you to emotionally detach from them. We must communicate and resist the temptation to sweep it under a rug, make up, and act like what they did or said did not hurt. 

We consciously avoid addressing the pain.

Many of us feel we can’t take the pain of addressing what hurts. I can relate to this all too well. For years, I put a traumatic experience in the back of my mind because every time I thought about it, it hurt.  What I didn’t realize was that that going through that pain was inevitable and necessary. It had to hurt before it felt better. The question I had to ask myself was if I wanted to address my wounds now or if I wanted to let them fester and address later? Just like with a physical wound, prolonging treatment will prolong healing.

Recently my friend told me how her son injured his toe and was in a lot of pain, but he was afraid of the pain that would come with getting it treated. She said she kept telling him that he needed to get it treated before it got worse. But because he avoided treatment for so long, his toe got worse and it became so infected that he had to get 3 different injections in that one toe. If he had sought treatment and allowed himself to FEEL the pain early on, he would not have had to go through the excruciating pain of getting all those needles later.

Every wound, whether physical or emotional, has to go through a PROCESS that does not always feel good. It hurts! But the only way to GET through the pain is to GO through the pain. A deep physical wound requires a proper cleansing of the inside of that wound. Failure to clean that wound will result in fragments of the object that caused the wound to remain in place and take residence inside of you. That object has no business being there and your body knows it, which is why pain occurs. Why fever occurs. Pain and fever is our body’s way of letting us know there is something inside of our bodies that should NOT be there. In the same way, anger, bitterness, resentment, and insecurities are signs that there are fragments of past hurts that are still inside of us, fragments that are NOT supposed to be there. Could there be fragments of what happened to you when you were a child left inside of you? Are there fragments of something that was said to you or about you left inside of you? Could there be fragments from your divorce left inside of you? Fragments from a painful loss left inside of you? 

I pray that this post has challenged you to search yourself for any evidence that there may be fragments left inside of you that need to GO. I pray that it has challenged you to search for any evidence that you may have wounds in which you’ve had a Band-Aid on for years but now realizing that what it really needed was air. Please feel free to share your thoughts below. Feel free to add more ways in which we cover up our wounds. As always please send any questions, suggestions, or prayer requests to 

Until next time,

Love Mizz K