It’s funny how we sometimes look at other women and envy their bodies, not realizing that same woman is looking at the next woman and envying hers. I was having this conversation with a friend who, like me, has some things she would change about her body if she could. While we both have issues with our bodies, our issues are not the same. Up until recently, I had tried to gain and keep a few extra pounds while she is trying to lose a few pounds. We talk often and are very open with one another about our insecurities as far as our bodies are concerned. Our conversations sometimes go like this (no kidding), “You are so lucky you are small; you would look great in that dress.” “But at least you have big enough breasts to fill out THIS top I wish I could wear”.
Looking at us, most people would probably say our bodies are fine. I’m a size 6 and I’m not sure of her size but she is a well proportioned “thick” woman. In my opinion, she has a wonderful shape; but no matter how much I tell her that, she has to know and feel it for herself. The truth is, a lot of women struggle with this same issue. I’m sure any woman reading this can think of at least one thing about her body that she wishes she could change with a snap of her fingers. Newsflash: That one thing you would pay to change, another woman is dying to have.

This was something I realized after talking to one of my patients. As I was checking her weight, she was complaining about how she hated her body and wanted to lose weight. I could not believe what she was saying because this woman was the definition of what they call a “Brick House”. She had full breasts, a tiny waist, round hips, and a very nice behind. I was literally standing there with my mouth open looking at her hourglass figure. I said, “Girl what are you talking about?? Do you know how many women would love to have your body? People actually pay money to have your shape.” She said she HATED her body and wished her hips and behind were smaller. She went on to say that she had a hard time shopping for clothes, and she couldn’t wear belts because her waist was too small. She also said that she had a hard time with men because she never knew if they were genuinely interested in her or only wanted her for her body. When she gave me all these reasons why she didn’t like her body, all I could say was WOW. I had no idea that women with “perfect” bodies had issues too. After listening to her and talking to others, I found that there are more women who are unhappy with their bodies than there are women who are satisfied. Don’t believe me? Turn on your television. It’s proven in the media, women proudly flaunting their fake breasts and fake behinds. But the thing is, these women have not learned to accept themselves for who they are and how God made them. Meanwhile, these are the same women who most of us are sitting at home wishing we looked like.

I remember seeing certain women and thinking, “Wow I wish I had a body like that!” But I have realized that the best way for me to be unhappy is to compare myself to other people. When you compare yourself to others, you tend to worry about what you don’t have rather than what you do have. Ladies, we have to remember that we were made perfectly in God’s image. We are fearfully and wonderfully made, whether we are size 8 or size 18. God made us who we are. Stop looking at other women and comparing your breasts to hers; and stop comparing your stomach and behind to hers. Stop worrying about the fact that her waste is smaller than yours. Especially if you have had children. Giving birth is a blessing; so thank God for the experience and let the marks be a reminder of that beautiful miracle.

If a healthier body is what you want, then take the necessary steps to make that happen. Maybe diabetes or hypertension run in your family and you want to lower your risk by losing weight; that is a great reason to want to lose weight. But please don’t let your motivation be the girl you see on TV or the woman you saw at the mall that had the “perfect body”. Do not believe society’s definition of a perfect body. A perfect body in my opinion is the body God made just for YOU.

Love, Mizz K ♥

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Thank You

 It was your mean words….

It was your turning your back on me when I needed you most…

It was your telling me that I would turn out just like my mother…

It was your beating me for no reason other than being BORN…

It was your burning my innocent 3 year old fingers on a gas stove…

It was your calling me ugly…

It was your calling me stupid…

It was your calling me B*tch as if it was my name…

It was your talking about me behind my back…

It was your telling me that I would never be anything…

It was your saying that there was no hope for me…

It was your turning your back on my daughter and living the life as if you have no children…

It was your pretending to be my best friend so that I let you in the way I’ve never let anyone in only for you to betray me…

It was your leaving me out & making sure to remind me every chance you got that I was not really apart of the family…

It was your turning your nose up at me because of my dark skin…

It was your selfishness when I loss the one person who was my EVERYTHING and all you could ask was “what did she leave ME??”

It was your telling me that you care nothing for me nor my daughter even though we are your blood…

It was your stealing from me…

It was your touching me in places you knew were forbidden but you were so HORNY & PERVERTED that all you cared about was getting yourself off, forget the fact that I was only a child!!

It was your not liking me for no reason…

It was your envy turned hate…

It was your judging me…

It was your wishing for my failure…

that ALMOST took me out!

anoint my head

Instead, I grew STRONGER… I worked HARDER…. I pushed FARTHER…. I became DETERMINED to prove all my naysayers wrong.

Most importantly, I ran away from the WORLD and into the arms of my Saviour never to look back. He wiped away my tears that I cried for so long… made me secure in my moments of insecurity. Gave me a sound mind when I should have been crazy. Helped me to love because He first loved me. Taught me to forgive by forgiving me. I have wanted for nothing; He has provided exceedingly and abundantly above all that I can ask or think. He’s favored me, had mercy on me, saved me, blessed me, anointed me, kept me…. elevated me

All in the presence of my Enemies

 -Mizz K ♥

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies; thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over, Psalm 23:5 

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God Knows BEST

A few days ago I heard a radio message about trusting God and not getting discouraged when our prayers are not answered right away; and believing He knows what He’s doing when our prayers are not answered at all. This message really stuck to me because it made me think about the many times I’ve prayed for something and didn’t get what I was asking for. I can even remember thinking, Somebody told me that God will give me the desires of my heart so why is He not doing so? (Key phrase: somebody told me) When I actually read Psalms 37:4 for myself, it says, “Delight yourself in the Lord AND He will give u the desires of your heart”. Hmmm, I thought. DELIGHT myself in the Lord. Well what does it mean to delight myself in the Lord? To delight myself in Him is to find happiness in Him…. To find JOY in Him…. Gladness. So I must first get to know Him…. attach myself to Him and Trust Him. I can’t delight myself in what I cannot trust.

So what makes me trust Him? When I look back and think about all the things He saved me from, I realize He’s always had my best interest at heart. He has been looking out for me my entire life by NOT answering every single prayer.  Had he answered my prayer to let me get that job I wanted so badly, I would not have ended up in the position I’m in now which I LOVE! I would not have met my dear coworker/friend who has been instrumental in my spiritual growth. Her knowledge of the Word and thirst for God began impacting my life from our very first conversation. Think about something you prayed so hard about in your past that you can now look back on and say, “Thank You Lord for not giving me what I asked for!”  Had He answered your prayer for that woman or man to be the ONE, you would be miserable now that you think about it. If He had answered your prayer about getting you out of that storm that you felt was killing you slowly, you would not have built up the strength that you have today from GOING THROUGH IT! If you can look back on your life and say, ” If it had not been for [this] I would not be as STRONG as I am today; I would not have as much FAITH as I have in Him today; I would not be as CLOSE to Him as I am today”–   you, my friend, should be able to trust that God was looking out for you back then and He has not stop looking out for you now.

Trust in Him and know that He often has something much Greater in store for us than what we are asking for. I think about a friend of mine. She was a single mother with one child at the time, but took on two of her family members because their mother could not take care of them. She lived in a small apartment and had been trying to move to a bigger place. But every place she applied to denied her application. She did not understand why she kept getting denied because she had good rental history, good credit, and decent income. I remember her being so discouraged. I didn’t understand it either. Why won’t anybody except her application, I thought. Turns out, it was all apart of God’s plan. After being denied by numerous apartments, and just as she was giving up, she was approved to move into a 3 bedroom house! She could rent to OWN this 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, finished basement, big backyard HOUSE. And the payments were much lower than what she would have been paying if she had rented an apartment. I was so happy for her. I remember saying to her, “Wow, so this is why you were denied everywhere you applied. Thank God for not answering your prayer!” Imagine if He had answered her prayer right away and  given her an apartment. She would not be living in her own home right now with more than enough space for her now family of 6. God had a much bigger plan for her than a 2 bedroom apartment.

We may be praying about something that we want so badly but God seems like He’s not hearing us. Or, we may be holding onto something that is not for us, not realizing that God has something, bigger, better, and greater than what we can ever imagine.

 I believe that once we are truly delighted in Him our desires will begin to change anyway, and become His Will. One sure way to know that your prayers will ALWAYS be answered each and every time? Pray for God’s Will in your life. That is one prayer that will ALWAYS be answered.

Love, Mizz K ♥

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