Why on Earth Would I Want To Stop Having Sex?

While it has not always been popular to abstain from sex, I believe more people today are open to giving it a try. More than ever, there are books, videos, blogs, and social media posts promoting sexual abstinence. And, it’s not only women. Men are promoting it too! There is a double standard that says men don’t practice abstinence because “they have needs.” I believe that is one of the biggest lies the devil ever told. He wants us to believe it is impossible, but I am thankful more men are speaking out and declaring that abstinence is possible for everyone.

In my new eBook, “Not My Goodies: 10 Benefits of Practicing Abstinence until Marriage, I highlight some of the benefits I’ve discovered while on my journey. I’ve also talked with different men and women to get their perspectives as well. I am a former sex addict. I can write that now without fear of judgment because I’ve finally learned to accept that was what I was. Sex literally ran my life. It was all I thought about. Most people can remember a time when sex wasn’t a dominant thought. I can’t. As far back as I can remember, sex has been on my mind, even when I was three years old. I wrote about this in detail in my book, Pain, Promiscuity, Purpose: From Mess To Ministry. Being freed from my addiction has helped me realize there is more to life than a few minutes of pleasure followed by the heartaches and the consequences that sometimes come along with sex. This freedom has been the happiest period of my life. For the first time, ever, I am living a sex-free life. Click here to find out the first benefit I discovered of abstinence.

 

Mizz K ♥

 

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Trying To Fight An Addiction?

Addictions of any kind are unhealthy. Let’s see… There are sexual addictions, drug addictions, alcohol addictions, attention-seeking addictions, biting addictions, etc. Some people have addictions that you would never believe existed. Whatever addiction you are currently struggling with, this is my best advice to you: just STOP doing it. I know what you’re thinking, it is NOT that easy! I am aware of that. Trust me I KNOW! But you are much more powerful than you realize. Ever heard of “mind over matter”? Needing that thing that you are addicted to is all in your mind. You don’t need it; you only THINK you do. You have to begin and continue telling yourself, “I do NOT need this.” And then DON’T do it. And keep NOT doing it. Once you get past the initial ‘pain’ of abstaining from your addiction, it gets easier. Sometimes the action has to precede the thought. In other words, there are some things that we have to first stop doing before the desire to do them goes away. When I made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage, I had to first stop doing it. It was very hard and it took a few tries (I backslid a few times). But eventually  I stopped, got through the initial pain of abstaining, and now I can honestly say that I am okay with not having sex. And I suffered from addiction to sex. I never ever thought that I would be able to overcome but by the grace of God, I did! It took lots of prayer, reading God’s Word, and staying out of tempting situations.
While you’re still in the beginning phase where you could easily give in, you must stay away from situations (and people) that tempt you to indulge in your addiction. For example, if you struggle with an alcohol addiction you need to stay away from settings where alcohol will be served. Eventually you will be strong enough to be around it and not be bothered. Until then, do what you have to do. And that may mean missing a few social gatherings until you’re strong enough. That’s exactly what I had to do. For awhile, I stayed away from bars and any other event that served alcohol. Three years later, I can be around it and not feel an ounce of desire to indulge.
I’m only able to speak on overcoming addiction because I have overcome a few, and currently still in the process of overcoming one. Like I said, any addictions is unhealthy no matter how ‘small’. If you struggle with an addiction that may be a threat to your health or to others, or an addiction that affects your daily functioning, I encourage you to reach out to your local government for resources that may be able to help. Remember, the first step in overcoming any addiction is to first acknowledge that you have an addiction and need help. You are not the only one so never feel ashamed and too embarrassed to seek help. We all have struggled or are still struggling with some kind of addiction so you are not alone, dear brother or sister.

*I just want to mention that some addictions are the result of spiritual strongholds. And in that case, you need deliverance which is a process that includes reading the Word of God, prayer, fasting, and falling to the feet of Jesus. True deliverance takes place in your spirit, mind, and body. You are more than welcome to send a prayer request if you would like help battling your addiction spiritually. Email your request to love_mizzk@yahoo.com.

Peace and blessings

Love, Mizz K 

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Women… What Does The WORD say vs. What The World Says?

The world tells us, “If you got it… FLAUNT IT!”  the WORD of God says that a woman should be modest in dress (1 Timothy 2:9)

The world tells us to wait at least five dates or 90 days before making love to a man the WORD of God says to wait until he is our HUSBAND (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 2 Corinthians 7:1-2)

The world says don’t be too nice. Instead of walking around with a smile on your face, walk around with a frown because it’s “sexy”….. and you don’t want to be too nice because “kindness is a sign of weakness”  the WORD of God commands us to be kind one to another; for kindness is a fruit of the Spirit;  (Ephesians 4:32; Galatians 5:22)

The world says hate your enemies ~ the WORD of God says we are to love them and pray for them (Matthew 5:44)

The world tells you that you need to be a certain size, shape, and complexion; and your hair has to be a certain length to be beautiful  the WORD of God says EVERYTHING He made beautiful! (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

The world inspire us to be “bad bitches”… and “boss bitches” ~ the Word of God calls us to be VIRTUOUS WOMEN  

The world makes us think that it is cute to be loud; and to swear & cuss   the WORD of God says that as  virtuous women we only open our mouths to speak wisdom with kindness on our tongues. (Proverbs 31:26)

The world tells us when someone does us wrong, we need to hold it against them… hold a grudge….. and throw it in their face every single chance we get ~ the WORD of God says that we are to forgive others just as Christ forgives us (Ephesians 4:32) 

The world tells you that money is the answer to all your problems the WORD of God says that the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10)

The world makes us believe that it is okay to sleep around… Jumping from bed to bed, sharing our bodies ~ But the Word of God says do you not know that your body is a temple in which the Holy Spirit dwells? With every other sin it is outside of the  body but when we fornicate we sin against our own body  (1 Corinthians 6:18-20) 

The world has us seeking popularity… trying to be liked, loved, and admired by all  but the WORD of God says to be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God (James 4:4)

The world says it’s okay to allow a man to lay up in your home all day while you go to work. Then gotta come home and cook him dinnerthe Word says that a man who does not WORK does not EAT (Thessalonians 3:10)

The world says that the teachings of the Bible does not apply today because we are in the 21st Century ~ 1 Peter 1:25 says that the Word of God endures forever (1 Peter 1:25)

The world tells us to get revenge on all those who have hurt you… “Lets do to them what they did to US! Let us hurt them because they hurt us”   But the WORD of God says that vengeance is the Lord’s (Romans 12:19)

The world can keep you down…. Make you feel like you are nobody… You cannot be anybody… And you cannot accomplish anything. And then you don’t because you think you can’t ~ but the WORD of God says that I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me  (Philippians 4:3)

The world can lead you to believe that satan actually cares for you…. because when you play his game you sometimes get what you want. And it feels good for a moment  the WORD of God says that satan comes ONLY to steal, kill, and to destroy (John 10:10)

The world can break you if you let it…. depress you, stress you….. Make you feel like your troubles are taking you out  the WORD of God says that we should count it all joy when we go through; for it is our trials that teach us endurance   (James 1:2-4)

The world teaches us to aspire for big houses, expensive cars, worldly and materialistics things  the WORD of God says we are to seek God and His righteousness above ALL ELSE and everything will be added to us (Matthew 6:33)

The world tells us, “Girl, get you a man with a big house and some money” so that he can take care of you  the WORD of God says that we should have our own (Proverbs 14:1)

The world tells us the more make up and jewelry we wear, the more beautiful our appearance  the WORD of God says that we are not to be so concerned with outward beauty such as hairstyles, expensive jewelry or beautiful clothes…. but to focus on the beauty which never fades and this is the beauty that comes from within.  (1 Peter 3:3)

The world makes us think love is supposed to hurt.  “He hurt me because he loves me”∼  the WORD of God says that love is kind. Love is not easily provoked nor is it evil. The word of God says that love is patient.  Love does not boast or brag. Love bears & endures all things; Love does not fail (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

The world lets us think we can hate each other… fight each other…. talk down on each other…. yet claim that we love God  The WORD of God says how we can love Him that we cannot see but can’t even love those that we can see?? (1 John 4:20)

The world will tell you that you can never change… The world reminds you of your past to discourage you. To make you believe that you still are what you were & can never be anything more  the WORD of God says that in Christ you are made NEW…..  you are a new creation & old things have passed. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

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