Remaining Neutral While You Wait

Recently, I watched a video featuring Pastor Touré Roberts and his wife, Sarah Jakes-Roberts. The video was called “5 Keys for Before and After ‘I do'” and it was a really good video for both singles and married folks. (I encourage you to check it out if you haven’t already.) I got a lot of great nuggets from the video but one thing stood out to me the most. When Pastor Touré was on the subject of the importance of receiving a confirmation from God before choosing a spouse, he mentioned that we need to remain neutral. As I’m sure you know, when you’re neutral it means you’re not on either side of a thing; you’re in the middle. The reason it’s imperative that we remain neutral is so we can hear clearly from God. Think about it. If you desperately want God to say, “Yes”, to whatever it is you’re asking of Him, that’s all you’re going to hear. God could be saying, “No,” but because you want so badly for Him to say, “Yes”, you may begin making excuses. “Well, maybe I didn’t hear God correctly.” “Maybe it’s me and I’m missing the yes.” When we’re neutral, we’re open to the fact that God may say “Yes” OR “No”. As I type this, I am striving to get to that place of neutrality as I await to hear from God. I believe it comes down to surrendering to God’s Will for our lives and trusting that He knows best. God knows us wayyyy better than we will ever know ourselves. When we can truly embrace that, it’s easier to be neutral and open to WHATEVER God wants for us. Many of us say, “I want God’s will for my life.” But do we really?

I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to remain neutral when it comes to whatever you’re seeking God about right now. Whether you want God’s answer about the spouse you should choose, the job you should take, or the new city you want to move to…  Don’t let your feelings keep you from hearing God clearly.

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Until next time,

Love, Mizz K



How to Create a Simple Budget

Let me just say that I’m the LAST person to call myself an expert lol. But I’ve realized in talking to different people that some people just do NOT know how to create a budget! So I’m sharing this video I recently posted to YouTube on how to create a simple budget. Creating this budget is just the first step in managing your money, but it’s the most crucial as it sets the foundation. Part 2 “How to Cut Expenses” will be coming soon.



I hope you enjoyed this video. If you haven’t already, check out my YouTube channel Think Like A VIRTUOUS Woman where my content is all about attaining the qualities of the Virtuous Woman in Proverbs 31. I discuss everything from growing in Christ and knowing your value and purpose in Him, to having multiple streams of income and how to manage it. I also talk about life as a single Christian woman. Be sure to subscribe to receive notifications each time I post! Until next time…

Love, Mizz K


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side smile Kendra “Mizz K” Fowler is a poet, blogger, and the author of Pain, Promiscuity, Purpose: From Mess To Ministry and Not My Goodies: 10 Benefits of Practicing Abstinence until Marriage” which can be found on You may connect with Mizz K on IG @love_mizzk and on Facebook @AuthorMizzK

Share your story… whether people like it or not…

Since I’ve released my book, “Pain, Promiscuity, Purpose: From Mess To Ministry” quite a few people have confided in me telling me they also have stories they wish they could tell. And each person admitted that they were worried about what others may think, specifically their families. I tell people what one of my friends told me when I told him how nervous I was about releasing my book. His response was, “It’s not your job to worry about their feelings. Whoever hurt you shouldn’t have done what they did.” Now I will say this, writing a book is not about EXPOSING anyone. It is about telling your story and releasing what you’ve held onto for years (for some people, their entire lives). It is about sharing your story of how you overcame so others will know they too can overcome. It is about glorifying GOD by sharing what He brought you through or what He delivered you from. And yes, some things and people will get exposed. But does that mean you protect those people at the expense of your own healing? Absolutely not! If it makes you feel better, you can attempt to talk to the person/persons (if you have a relationship with them) and let them know you’re about to write a book, post a video, or share a testimony that includes your experience with them. No matter what, though, there will be many people who will not like it. Especially if that person is loved. And this is when you’re going to have to (excuse my expression lol) put on your big girl panties. I had to. I’ve had family bad mouth my book who haven’t even opened it up lol, because of what or who they THINK it’s about. I’ve learned that this is just something that comes with sharing your truth. Prepare to have people upset with you. Prepare to get talked about. Prepare to have family members stop talking to you. Prepare to be blocked on Facebook. Also… prepare for God to be glorified when you share how your past could have taken you out but because of Him, it DIDN’T. Prepare for people to come to you telling you how much they needed to read your story because they’ve struggled or are struggling with the same thing. Prepare for people to tell you how they’ve been holding in their testimony for years but hearing or reading yours gave them the courage to finally let it out. Prepare for people asking you to come speak to their youth group or a group of women/men who are going through the very thing you came out of. Sharing my testimony and writing my book have been so freeing. And the number of people who have been blessed is confirmation for me that I’m doing what God calls me to do. And that’s glorifying Him by being transparent about my mess that has turned into my ministry. Share your story.

~Love, Mizz K ❤

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