You Want A Certain Type Of Woman; But Are You The Type Of Man That That Type Of Woman Wants? 

You want a certain type of woman… but are you the type of man that that type of woman would want?

You say she has to “have her own” but are YOU out of your parent’s house? That includes your grandparents’, cousins’, aunt’s, or uncle’s house too.

Do you have a career or even have a job? You require independence in a woman; yet, you do not possess it yourself.

Can you fill her refrigerator with food? You require your woman to cook for you every day; but do you help her out with groceries?

You say you want your woman to have a car; but do YOU have one?

You say you want a woman with no kids; but…. you have two or three kids yourself??

Or maybe you are the type willing to step up & be a father to her children; yet your own children are walking around father-less.

You want your woman to have a “BANGING” body, and she needs to “compliment you”; but you are 50 pounds overweight.

You said you want a church going woman; but that is confusing because you only attend church on Palm and Easter Sunday.

You want a woman “who knows how to treat a man”; a woman who respects you, admires you, and “lets a man be a man”.

But are YOU respectable…… admirable? Are you a MAN?

You love to point out scriptures like Genesis 2:18 which says woman was made to be man’s helper, and Ephesians 5:22 where it says a WIFE submits to her HUSBAND; yes sir, I’ve read those scriptures. But… I also read in Genesis 2:24 that a man is to LEAVE (keyword) his mother and father and become one with his wife; and I read in 1 Timothy 5:8 that a man who does not provide for his own house has denied the faith & is worse than a non-believer.

There is nothing wrong with wanting an independent, church going woman who cooks & “knows how to treat her man”.. but understand this, that woman wants a certain type of man.

I recently had a conversation with someone from my past; he expressed that he wanted to marry me. I had to be completely honest with him about why he is not the man for me. Besides the fact that he cannot provide for or lead a family he is not TRYING to make his situation better. And that is evidence that he lacks what is most important to me…. striving to become the man that Gods calls him to be. The man for me is in God’s word, a reader and a doer; he understands that he is called to be a leader, a protector, a provider. I had to be quite blunt with him; he is not even ready for me. Not just because he does not have a steady job; not just because he stays with family… but because he is OKAY with it. And because he is okay with staying home with the kids while I work. Excuse me?? If I wanted a wife, I would be with a woman! He seems to desire husband-hood (if that is a word) more than he desires manhood. I told him as nicely and sincerely as I know how that he needs to focus on becoming a man before trying to become a husband. 

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 I am not man bashing nor am I talking down on anyone; in fact, the only man who would be offended by this post is the man described above, who demands so much in a woman but lack those qualities himself. As a man, why would you NOT want to lead, protect, and provide for your woman? Nowadays, women are the ones bringing home the bacon and cooking it too.This is not God’s design for family. Many argue that this is a new day; It may be a “new day” but God’s Word is the same today and forever. And it calls for man (not woman) to be the HEAD of his family.

That is all for now

Love, Mizz K ♥

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Men,

Have you ever been trying to get to know a woman & she seemed kind of interested but wouldn’t give you a chance?  You wonder why she barely responds to your texts? And when she does, it’s usually dry….. Why every time you ask to see her, she is “busy”? Besides the fact that she could already have a man & that she could truly be very busy, it could also be something else: it could be your approach.

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If you constantly ask her, “When are we going to chill?” Or “When can I see you?” that tells her a few things that are not good. It can tell her that you are 1) not serious about her & probably just wanna get in her pants 2) she is not worth a real date 3) you do not know how to treat a lady because you are used to little girls who are okay with “just chilling” as a first date. If you are not serious about her or anyone at the moment, this is not for you. But, if you are serious about wanting to get to know her & are serious about finding your GOOD THING AND OBTAINING  FAVOR FROM THE LORD, keep reading. I am giving the first couple of steps to get to know her. KEEPING her is a whole other subject we can discuss later but you have to GET her first. I am not an expert; I am just writing from a woman’s perspective & I have to tell you, this is something that A LOT of guys do. If that is not you, cool. If it is, please stop right now, okay? Kay.

First, when talking to her you must express interest in something that’s important to her. Maybe ask questions about her career or what she enjoys doing…. Or maybe even about something she’s told you she has been working on. Us women love talking & we love for a man to LISTEN; and we like to feel like you actually care about what we are telling you. Ask about her children if she has them… & her family. Showing interest is very important because we often times come across guys who barely like to talk, let alone listen. Famous line from guys, “I don’t like talking on the phone.” Well WE do! For hours sometimes lol. I’m just saying, show us something different.

Ask her OUT. Do NOT ask if you can chill. Do NOT ask if she can come see you or if you can go see her. Ask her out to dinner….. Or some place where you could have fun & get to know one another (bowling, for example or going to a live show). I am not saying you have to spend a lot of money & you have to “wine & dine” her & go all out. That’s not what I’m saying at all. I am only saying that when you are truly trying to get to know a WOMAN (hint: not a girl) you have to show some effort. Like I said talk to her, get to know her, date her. And give her some time to warm up to you…. If you get her number today don’t ask her if you can see her tonight. For me, I like to talk on the phone a little bit with a man just to see if I even want to go out on a date with him. Every woman is different; I am only speaking for myself & for some other women I know who agree with me.

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What if you are ALREADY doing these things & she is still not responding, not trying to going out on a date with you, & still not showing you any interest? Unfortunately, she is not into you & probably doesn’t know how to tell you; so she ignores you hoping you will eventually get the hint and give up. I know that’s not the right way to go about it. She should be honest about how she feels, which is the mature thing to do. But some find it easier to “disappear” than to formally break things off. 

This is all for now. More discussion on this topic coming soon. 

Love, Mizz K ♥

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