You Want A Certain Type Of Woman; But Are You The Type Of Man That That Type Of Woman Wants? 

You want a certain type of woman… but are you the type of man that that type of woman would want?

You say she has to “have her own” but are YOU out of your parent’s house? That includes your grandparents’, cousins’, aunt’s, or uncle’s house too.

Do you have a career or even have a job? You require independence in a woman; yet, you do not possess it yourself.

Can you fill her refrigerator with food? You require your woman to cook for you every day; but do you help her out with groceries?

You say you want your woman to have a car; but do YOU have one?

You say you want a woman with no kids; but…. you have two or three kids yourself??

Or maybe you are the type willing to step up & be a father to her children; yet your own children are walking around father-less.

You want your woman to have a “BANGING” body, and she needs to “compliment you”; but you are 50 pounds overweight.

You said you want a church going woman; but that is confusing because you only attend church on Palm and Easter Sunday.

You want a woman “who knows how to treat a man”; a woman who respects you, admires you, and “lets a man be a man”.

But are YOU respectable…… admirable? Are you a MAN?

You love to point out scriptures like Genesis 2:18 which says woman was made to be man’s helper, and Ephesians 5:22 where it says a WIFE submits to her HUSBAND; yes sir, I’ve read those scriptures. But… I also read in Genesis 2:24 that a man is to LEAVE (keyword) his mother and father and become one with his wife; and I read in 1 Timothy 5:8 that a man who does not provide for his own house has denied the faith & is worse than a non-believer.

There is nothing wrong with wanting an independent, church going woman who cooks & “knows how to treat her man”.. but understand this, that woman wants a certain type of man.

I recently had a conversation with someone from my past; he expressed that he wanted to marry me. I had to be completely honest with him about why he is not the man for me. Besides the fact that he cannot provide for or lead a family he is not TRYING to make his situation better. And that is evidence that he lacks what is most important to me…. striving to become the man that Gods calls him to be. The man for me is in God’s word, a reader and a doer; he understands that he is called to be a leader, a protector, a provider. I had to be quite blunt with him; he is not even ready for me. Not just because he does not have a steady job; not just because he stays with family… but because he is OKAY with it. And because he is okay with staying home with the kids while I work. Excuse me?? If I wanted a wife, I would be with a woman! He seems to desire husband-hood (if that is a word) more than he desires manhood. I told him as nicely and sincerely as I know how that he needs to focus on becoming a man before trying to become a husband. 

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 I am not man bashing nor am I talking down on anyone; in fact, the only man who would be offended by this post is the man described above, who demands so much in a woman but lack those qualities himself. As a man, why would you NOT want to lead, protect, and provide for your woman? Nowadays, women are the ones bringing home the bacon and cooking it too.This is not God’s design for family. Many argue that this is a new day; It may be a “new day” but God’s Word is the same today and forever. And it calls for man (not woman) to be the HEAD of his family.

That is all for now

Love, Mizz K ♥

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What if we had to EARN God’s Grace?

Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus Romans 3:24

What if we had to earn God’s grace?
And He handed it to us in a measuring cup?
And we were only able to use how much we had saved up?

Suppose…. He put a limit
on the number of times we could be forgiven?

Instead of seventy times SEVEN,
He told us no more than ELEVEN!

And the only way to get to Heaven was to not sin at all….
like in Old Testament days when they only lived under the Law?

What if we had to DESERVE God’s love?
And we only received as much as we gave to our sisters and brothers?
And it was based on our works and how we treated others??

Can you imagine if we had to work for the Holy Spirit?

To seal, to heal, to strenghten and comfort us
To guide us
To abide in us
To renew us
To produce in us:

Love, Joy, Peace, Kindness, and Patience
Goodness, Gentleness, Self-control, and Faithfulness

If grace was based on our worth, we would never make it into the narrow gates
But aren’t you glad that God sent Jesus as our way of escape??

Escape from the enemy, escape from our own flesh
Escape from sin, escape from DEATH!

Don’t you find peace in knowing that Jesus came to bear all sin?
Bled and died on the cross and rose again!

For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten
So that our sins are not only forgiven they would be FORGOTTEN

Forgiveness is given to us freely each time that we ask
Our iniquities are no more, gone with the PAST!

God does not love us because we deserve it
It is not measured according to our performance or acts of kind service,

God’s unearned love is Bountiful, Eternal, Perfect, UNCHANGING
It is Sacrificial, Fulfilling, Purifying, AMAZING!

The Holy Spirit was sent to Intercede
For all those who believe,

To guide us,
To abide within us

To help, to teach,
To transform, to speak

To fill us, to reveal to us,
To use us, to produce in us:

Love, Joy, Peace, Kindness, and Patience
Goodness, Gentleness, Self-control and Faithfulness

His Grace is limitless, over-flowing, forever FREE
Undeserved, yet over SERVED
Reserved for YOU and ME 🙂

Love, Mizz K ♥

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