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The Pain Of Losing A Mother

Whether a mother is lost suddenly due to tragedy or slowly due to an illness, a lifelong pain is produced that is unexplainable. If she died suddenly, you deal with the feelings of “just having a conversation with her and she seemed fine”. Or, you had just left her and planned on calling her in a bit. Or you had just made plans to have dinner at her house on Sunday. Or, you just had an argument and parted on bad terms. Whichever scenario describes or almost describes your situation, you have feelings of regret. “I should’ve stayed with her a little longer”. “I should’ve hugged her a little tighter”. “I should have been the bigger person and apologized”.

If she died slowly due to an incurable illness or condition, you deal with a sense of feeling selfish because you find yourself trying to hold onto her. You cannot stand the sight of seeing her suffer, but you are never ready to let her go. You watch her slowly deteriorate over time. You watch her in pain and it hurts so bad because you can’t do anything about it. Except hold her hand. And give her anything she wants. You want her to be happy in her last moments. When she passes on, the pain is still as bad as if it had happened suddenly. At first, you find yourself  reaching for your phone to call Mom. Or you find yourself preparing to fix an extra plate for dinner. Or you find yourself wanting to tell her the funny thing that the baby did today. But then it hits you. And you remember that Mom is gone. You find yourself calling her phone just to hear her voice again. Or sniffing her clothes to hold on to her scent. But as time goes on, you are no longer able to hear the voicemail because the phone is now off. Her voice is no longer as clear in your mind as it was before. Her scent is no longer fresh on her clothing. You realize that you are slowly losing the little that you had left of her. And all you have now are memories and photos. Some days you will think of her, look at her pictures, and cry until your head hurts. Some days you will think of her and smile. You will hear her favorite song and it will instantly bring you to tears no matter how happy the song is. Hearing the song will take you back to those moments that she blasted the song while cleaning on Saturday mornings, or turned up the song in the car and embarrassed you with her loud singing. You will have vivid dreams of her only to wake up and realize that it’s only a dream, and Mommy is not really back. You will have dreams that comfort you as she assures you that she is okay.

Will the pain ever go away? No. But with time, it gets easier to deal with. There is an emptiness that comes with losing your mother that can never be filled. It is as if a part of you dies with her. The feeling is hard for you to explain and attempting to only makes you break down in tears. Every milestone, every accomplishment, every celebration will have you wishing she was here to experience it with you. You will wish she lived to see you graduate. You will wish she lived to see you walk down the aisle. You will wish she lived to see your children’s first steps and laugh at the cute things they say. The pain will never go away, you only learn to accept that she’s gone and it’s a part of God’s plan. As much as it hurts, you find comfort in knowing that there lies a purpose behind the pain. And as you grow closer to God, you realize that He makes no mistakes. Perhaps she already served God’s purpose for her life. After all, He did use her to birth YOU. I pray for your comfort in the hard times and for peace in your heart. And I pray that you can be a comfort to those who are in that place that you once were.

Love, Mizz K ♥

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I Cannot Imagine Your Pain….

I cannot imagine your pain, and cannot begin to relate to your despair.
All that I can offer is my sincere condolences and prayers.

You’ve experienced the worse type of pain and only God knows why.
Don’t be afraid to scream, to yell, don’t be ashamed to cry.

God says ask and it will be given; seek and you shall find.
Continue to seek Him and I believe the purpose will be revealed to you in time.

Don’t think that you can’t seek God for answers so that you can understand:
“What is it that You’re trying to say to me by taking my lil man?”

“Never felt a pain this great; hurts too bad I can’t take it;
I’m told to carry on with my life but I’m just not sure if I’m going to make it”;

“I cannot eat; I cannot sleep; I feel like I’m going insane!
Lord please make clear to me Your purpose for my pain”;

“I know that I’m not supposed to lean on my own understanding and I’m to trust You with all my heart;
But Lord please tell me how do I trust when my life feels like it’s falling apart?”

“I want to bring my burdens to You and lay them at Your feet like it says in Your Word;
I’m trying so hard to put my faith in You that my prayer for better days will be heard”

“Can I really do ALL things do through Christ, like your Word says in Philippians??
Is Your power truly made perfect in my weakness as it says in 2 Corinthians?”

“I’m choosing to trust You today O Lord, as I’ve never trusted You before;
I’m choosing to trust that You will heal this painful sore”;

“The sore that now covers my heart and makes me so afraid to feel;
But today I’m choosing to believe Your Word as I know it’s REAL”;

“I trust that You love me so much You sent Your only Son to die for my sins,
So that I may have eternal life & be united with my son again”

“I’m putting my trust in a God who I read never sleeps nor does He slumber;
I pray that today You supply my need for strength, courage, peace, and for comfort”;

“I trust that all things, even the bad, work together for my good;
Most of all, I trust that You are taking better care of my son than I ever could”

Love, Mizz K ♥

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Women… What Does The WORD say vs. What The World Says?

The world tells us, “If you got it… FLAUNT IT!” ∼ the WORD of God says that a woman should be modest in dress (1 Timothy 2:9)

The world tells us to wait at least five dates or 90 days before making love to a man ∼ the WORD of God says to wait until he is our HUSBAND (1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 2 Corinthians 7:1-2)

The world says don’t be too nice. Instead of walking around with a smile on your face, walk around with a frown because it’s “sexy”….. and you don’t want to be too nice because “kindness is a sign of weakness” ∼ the WORD of God commands us to be kind one to another; for kindness is a fruit of the Spirit;  (Ephesians 4:32; Galatians 5:22)

The world says hate your enemies ~ the WORD of God says we are to love them and pray for them (Matthew 5:44)

The world tells you that you need to be a certain size, shape, and complexion; and your hair has to be a certain length to be beautiful ∼ the WORD of God says EVERYTHING He made beautiful! (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

The world inspire us to be “bad bitches”… and “boss bitches” ~ the Word of God calls us to be VIRTUOUS WOMEN  

The world makes us think that it is cute to be loud; and to swear & cuss ∼  the WORD of God says that as  virtuous women we only open our mouths to speak wisdom with kindness on our tongues. (Proverbs 31:26)

The world tells us when someone does us wrong, we need to hold it against them… hold a grudge….. and throw it in their face every single chance we get ~ the WORD of God says that we are to forgive others just as Christ forgives us (Ephesians 4:32) 

The world tells you that money is the answer to all your problems ∼ the WORD of God says that the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10)

The world makes us believe that it is okay to sleep around… Jumping from bed to bed, sharing our bodies ~ But the Word of God says do you not know that your body is a temple in which the Holy Spirit dwells? With every other sin it is outside of the  body but when we fornicate we sin against our own body  (1 Corinthians 6:18-20) 

The world has us seeking popularity… trying to be liked, loved, and admired by all ∼ but the WORD of God says to be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God (James 4:4)

The world says it’s okay to allow a man to lay up in your home all day while you go to work. Then gotta come home and cook him dinner∼ the Word says that a man who does not WORK does not EAT (Thessalonians 3:10)

The world says that the teachings of the Bible does not apply today because we are in the 21st Century ~ 1 Peter 1:25 says that the Word of God endures forever (1 Peter 1:25)

The world tells us to get revenge on all those who have hurt you… “Lets do to them what they did to US! Let us hurt them because they hurt us” ∼  But the WORD of God says that vengeance is the Lord’s (Romans 12:19)

The world can keep you down…. Make you feel like you are nobody… You cannot be anybody… And you cannot accomplish anything. And then you don’t because you think you can’t ~ but the WORD of God says that I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me  (Philippians 4:3)

The world can lead you to believe that satan actually cares for you…. because when you play his game you sometimes get what you want. And it feels good for a moment ∼ the WORD of God says that satan comes ONLY to steal, kill, and to destroy (John 10:10)

The world can break you if you let it…. depress you, stress you….. Make you feel like your troubles are taking you out ∼ the WORD of God says that we should count it all joy when we go through; for it is our trials that teach us endurance   (James 1:2-4)

The world teaches us to aspire for big houses, expensive cars, worldly and materialistics things∼  the WORD of God says we are to seek God and His righteousness above ALL ELSE and everything will be added to us (Matthew 6:33)

The world tells us, “Girl, get you a man with a big house and some money” so that he can take care of you ∼ the WORD of God says that we should have our own (Proverbs 14:1)

The world tells us the more make up and jewelry we wear, the more beautiful our appearance ∼ the WORD of God says that we are not to be so concerned with outward beauty such as hairstyles, expensive jewelry or beautiful clothes…. but to focus on the beauty which never fades and this is the beauty that comes from within.  (1 Peter 3:3)

The world makes us think love is supposed to hurt.  “He hurt me because he loves me”∼  the WORD of God says that love is kind. Love is not easily provoked nor is it evil. The word of God says that love is patient.  Love does not boast or brag. Love bears & endures all things; Love does not fail (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

The world lets us think we can hate each other… fight each other…. talk down on each other…. yet claim that we love God ∼  The WORD of God says how we can love Him that we cannot see but can’t even love those that we can see?? (1 John 4:20)

The world will tell you that you can never change… The world reminds you of your past to discourage you. To make you believe that you still are what you were & can never be anything more ∼ the WORD of God says that in Christ you are made NEW…..  you are a new creation & old things have passed. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

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