3 Ways To Strengthen Your Walk With God

 I am often asked about how I strengthen my spiritual walk. Most often this question comes from people who knew me before I gave my life to Christ and now see the change in my life and they are trying to do the same. I’ve also gotten messages from women I don’t know via email and social media wanting to know what they can do to strengthen their walk and relationship with God. Every time I’m asked, my answer is always the same– I read my Bible, I consistently fast and pray (I list these together as they are often done at the same time), and I surround myself with like-minded people. While every person is different, I believe that these essentials are sure to create a strong spiritual foundation for anyone. My prayer is that sharing this helps someone.

 

Love, Mizz K 

 

Trying To Fight An Addiction?

Addictions of any kind are unhealthy. Let’s see… There are sexual addictions, drug addictions, alcohol addictions, attention-seeking addictions, biting addictions, etc. Some people have addictions that you would never believe existed. Whatever addiction you are currently struggling with, this is my best advice to you: just STOP doing it. I know what you’re thinking, it is NOT that easy! I am aware of that. Trust me I KNOW! But you are much more powerful than you realize. Ever heard of “mind over matter”? Needing that thing that you are addicted to is all in your mind. You don’t need it; you only THINK you do. You have to begin and continue telling yourself, “I do NOT need this.” And then DON’T do it. And keep NOT doing it. Once you get past the initial ‘pain’ of abstaining from your addiction, it gets easier. Sometimes the action has to precede the thought. In other words, there are some things that we have to first stop doing before the desire to do them goes away. When I made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage, I had to first stop doing it. It was very hard and it took a few tries (I backslid a few times). But eventually  I stopped, got through the initial pain of abstaining, and now I can honestly say that I am okay with not having sex. And I suffered from addiction to sex. I never ever thought that I would be able to overcome but by the grace of God, I did! It took lots of prayer, reading God’s Word, and staying out of tempting situations.
While you’re still in the beginning phase where you could easily give in, you must stay away from situations (and people) that tempt you to indulge in your addiction. For example, if you struggle with an alcohol addiction you need to stay away from settings where alcohol will be served. Eventually you will be strong enough to be around it and not be bothered. Until then, do what you have to do. And that may mean missing a few social gatherings until you’re strong enough. That’s exactly what I had to do. For awhile, I stayed away from bars and any other event that served alcohol. Three years later, I can be around it and not feel an ounce of desire to indulge.
I’m only able to speak on overcoming addiction because I have overcome a few, and currently still in the process of overcoming one. Like I said, any addictions is unhealthy no matter how ‘small’. If you struggle with an addiction that may be a threat to your health or to others, or an addiction that affects your daily functioning, I encourage you to reach out to your local government for resources that may be able to help. Remember, the first step in overcoming any addiction is to first acknowledge that you have an addiction and need help. You are not the only one so never feel ashamed and too embarrassed to seek help. We all have struggled or are still struggling with some kind of addiction so you are not alone, dear brother or sister.

*I just want to mention that some addictions are the result of spiritual strongholds. And in that case, you need deliverance which is a process that includes reading the Word of God, prayer, fasting, and falling to the feet of Jesus. True deliverance takes place in your spirit, mind, and body. You are more than welcome to send a prayer request if you would like help battling your addiction spiritually. Email your request to love_mizzk@yahoo.com.

Peace and blessings

Love, Mizz K 

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The Pain Of Losing A Mother

Whether a mother is lost suddenly due to tragedy or slowly due to an illness, a lifelong pain is produced that is unexplainable. If she died suddenly, you deal with the feelings of “just having a conversation with her and she seemed fine”. Or, you had just left her and planned on calling her in a bit. Or you had just made plans to have dinner at her house on Sunday. Or, you just had an argument and parted on bad terms. Whichever scenario describes or almost describes your situation, you have feelings of regret. “I should’ve stayed with her a little longer”. “I should’ve hugged her a little tighter”. “I should have been the bigger person and apologized”.

If she died slowly due to an incurable illness or condition, you deal with a sense of feeling selfish because you find yourself trying to hold onto her. You cannot stand the sight of seeing her suffer, but you are never ready to let her go. You watch her slowly deteriorate over time. You watch her in pain and it hurts so bad because you can’t do anything about it. Except hold her hand. And give her anything she wants. You want her to be happy in her last moments. When she passes on, the pain is still as bad as if it had happened suddenly. At first, you find yourself  reaching for your phone to call Mom. Or you find yourself preparing to fix an extra plate for dinner. Or you find yourself wanting to tell her the funny thing that the baby did today. But then it hits you. And you remember that Mom is gone. You find yourself calling her phone just to hear her voice again. Or sniffing her clothes to hold on to her scent. But as time goes on, you are no longer able to hear the voicemail because the phone is now off. Her voice is no longer as clear in your mind as it was before. Her scent is no longer fresh on her clothing. You realize that you are slowly losing the little that you had left of her. And all you have now are memories and photos. Some days you will think of her, look at her pictures, and cry until your head hurts. Some days you will think of her and smile. You will hear her favorite song and it will instantly bring you to tears no matter how happy the song is. Hearing the song will take you back to those moments that she blasted the song while cleaning on Saturday mornings, or turned up the song in the car and embarrassed you with her loud singing. You will have vivid dreams of her only to wake up and realize that it’s only a dream, and Mommy is not really back. You will have dreams that comfort you as she assures you that she is okay.

Will the pain ever go away? No. But with time, it gets easier to deal with. There is an emptiness that comes with losing your mother that can never be filled. It is as if a part of you dies with her. The feeling is hard for you to explain and attempting to only makes you break down in tears. Every milestone, every accomplishment, every celebration will have you wishing she was here to experience it with you. You will wish she lived to see you graduate. You will wish she lived to see you walk down the aisle. You will wish she lived to see your children’s first steps and laugh at the cute things they say. The pain will never go away, you only learn to accept that she’s gone and it’s a part of God’s plan. As much as it hurts, you find comfort in knowing that there lies a purpose behind the pain. And as you grow closer to God, you realize that He makes no mistakes. Perhaps she already served God’s purpose for her life. After all, He did use her to birth YOU. I pray for your comfort in the hard times and for peace in your heart. And I pray that you can be a comfort to those who are in that place that you once were.

Love, Mizz K ♥

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